10 secrets of genuinely confident people

Being confident is not a gift.

 

It’s not built into your DNA

 

It’s a step by step learned process

 

Genuinely confident people understand that being confident is not something that descends upon you, fully formed. They didn’t wake up one morning and discover they were suddenly (thank goodness, it’s about time!) confident. They didn’t take a fast acting, time release confidence pill. Just like everyone else, genuinely confident people face challenges, but they choose to create a confident mindset out of those challenges.  

1. They’re not confident all the time.

Confidence is the end result of taking the necessary steps to develop it. Even confident people have moments (many moments) of self-doubt and fear.  They just don’t let those moments define who they are and how they show up.

2. They have learned to make a commitment to their future.

Confident people have learned to look forward and determine the future they wish to have.  They set goals.  They envision the future and they make a commitment to make it happen.  They dream big and they play big.

3. They know the value of the past and learn from it.

For the genuinely confident person, the past is a wealth of information both positive and negative that can generate energy and focus for the future.  Understanding and reflecting on the stories and events of the past is an opportunity to start fresh; to build a better and stronger foundation. Instead of staying stuck in old patterns, confident people learn from their past experience and step into their future with that knowledge, consciously choosing what they will use going forward.

5. They recognize their skills, abilities and imperfections.

Genuinely confident people understand what makes them special and unique.  They let their talents and gifts shine! They’ve come to terms with who they are and have accepted their imperfections, which allows them to take imperfect action.   They understand that imperfections can be just as empowering as their gifts and talents.

6. They make a conscious choice to be authentic.

Confidence is not the same as being arrogant or conceited.  It is instead an inner alignment with their authentic selves. It’s a willingness to be seen as who they truly are, to be comfortable in their own skin and it shows.

7. They don’t judge or compare themselves to others.

Confident people have no need or want to compare themselves to others. They celebrate in other’s success and recognize it as a sign that it is an abundant world.  There is enough for all. Worrying about what others are doing, or not doing, is unnecessary and time-consuming, and creates a false sense of superiority or inferiority.

8. They know how to refocus, realign and renew.

When faced with problems or doubts, they realign with their intention and goals, review their plan and revise if necessary.   By refocusing, they can approach difficulties from a new perspective.

9. They know that courage comes before confidence.

Courage is not a lack of fear.  Courage is rather taking action in the face of fear.  Developing courage is like developing a muscle.  It always involves some pain but it is worth it in the end. Yes, it’s scary, but that’s all part of the dance. By doing it scared, they take control of their lives.

10. They take risks.

Confident people are risk takers.  But they don’t take risks because they are confident…they are confident because they take risks.  What drives them is growth and the opportunity to learn more about who they are, and what they can accomplish. They know there’s always a chance they may fail, but for them, failure is just another life lesson.