How to cope with challenging choices

Challenging Choices

A funny thing happened at a party that I recently attended.

The invitation included instructions to back into the driveway in order to create enough space for all the cars.  I rode to the party with a friend and on the way we discussed the “back in” issue.  Neither of us had ever been to this house and neither of us much like backing our cars anywhere, especially in the dark in an unfamiliar environment.  

We arrived at the address and were faced with a very long driveway (a really, really, really long driveway–more like a road) and a house way, way off in the distance that was ablaze with lights.  One lone car was already abandoned on the street.  We seriously considered parking on the street as well even though it meant a long hike in the cold, carrying various side dishes for the dinner.

We soon noticed two cars that were venturing down the long drive but not backing in. We hesitantly decided to follow suit, still wondering at what point we would be required to begin backing up.  

About half way down the drive, all three cars were brought to a standstill by another car that was slowly and carefully backing up.  Over two bridges (seriously) and down the long, long winding drive, past the house ablaze with lights to yet another house that was not even visible from the road, the caravan proceeded; one car backing up and the rest of us wondering when and how we would be forced to begin backing up as well.

We arrived at the destination to find a large parking area where cars could turn around and (you guessed it!) back in, creating rows of cars, all facing forward so that no one would have to back up in the crowded space to exit the party later.  

The host had never intended that the guests back down the long driveway.  In fact, she was horrified at the difficulty of even trying it.  The suggestion to “back in” was meant to make the experience easier, not more difficult and treacherous.

You and Challenging Choices

I got to thinking about how this experience rivals some of the other decisions we make in life

What do you do when you are faced with a situation that seems challenging, perhaps even dangerously so?  Here are some possibilities:

  1. Follow the directions you were given, even if they seem a little crazy. After all rules are there to be followed, right?
  2. Trust your gut and take another route, even if it means extra work for yourself… at least you are safe if uncomfortable.
  3. Wait and see what others in a similar situation do, then follow along.  Hope and pray they know what they are doing, even if you don’t.
  4. None of the above

Interestingly enough, when faced with the long treacherous driveway, no one called the host and asked, “Are you kidding?  You want us to back down this driveway???”  Because if they had, they would have gotten clarification on directions that we all misinterpreted.

What about you?

When you are faced with challenging choices, are you following all the rules?  Is that working out for you?

Are you going solo and bravely venturing out on your own, even though it’s a little risky?  

Are you following the crowd?  Could it be that they don’t know what they are doing either?  

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1 Comment

  1. Ann on December 22, 2015 at 5:10 pm

    Lynne that is such a powerful picture for me you shared with that story. I tend to be the obedient girl who follows directions to the letter as that is how I was raised to be – but in going through life experiences I have learned, many times the hard way that this is not always the best way! I won’t soon forget your story when something seems ridiculous and will question and get clarification. Wishing you and your family a blessed Christmas.

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