Six Reasons to Celebrate Introverts
In parenting classes, I often hear concerns about children who are introverts. Parents worry that they won’t make friends, won’t be successful and will be unhappy throughout their lives. In the book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, the author, Susan Cain puts these worries to rest.
Instead, here are some of the strengths that introverts can celebrate:
Introverts are highly observant— Introverts typically notice and remember details about people and their surroundings. They take time to notice and process what is happening around them.
Introverts are creative– Perhaps due to their powers of observation, introverts typically take the information that they observe and create wonderful new ideas. They can think outside of the box and provide a unique perspective on life. For this reason, they often make great writers and artists.
Introverts are great listeners– Introverts listen to understand, process and respond with thought and empathy. For this reason, they often make great teachers and counselors because they really tune in to others.
Introverts are introspective– Typically introverts are not quick to respond but need time to process information. They spend a lot of time thinking through and analyzing information about themselves and others.
Introverts are rarely bored– Because introverts are deep thinkers they are constantly planning and working out their dreams and goals in their head. This can keep them entertained and busy!
Introverts are loyal friends– Because introverts are thoughtful observers who value their time alone, they typically choose a select few friends. With their inner circle, they are supportive and loyal through thick and thin.
Parenting the Introvert
In the past, many parents felt a need to “help” children who were introverts overcome what were seen as deficits. Today, thanks to much research and eye opening work like Susan Cain’s book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, introverts are celebrated for their unique strengths and abilities. Cain concludes her book with a section on advice to parents.
Here are some of her main points:
- Take the time to understand the personality style of your introverted child
- Don’t try to change them into someone more extroverted by pushing them into sports, activities, play dates or anything that they are not interested in doing
- Recognize that the areas where they have strengths are sometimes solitary pursuits. Encourage and celebrate these talents.
- Learn about and share with them the lives of some of the famous introverts. Rosa Parks, Albert Einstein and Eleanor Roosevelt are a few.
- Recognize and teach children that introverts can be leaders, performers, really anything that they have a passion for, they just go at it from a different direction.
- Celebrate with your child the characteristics they have that make them uniquely special.
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