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how to teach kids not to give up

Use Brain Science to Teach Kids Not to Give Up Brain science has dramatically changed how we think about the brain.  While much of the research has been applied to helping children learn better in an academic setting, growth mindset research has also taught us how to help children develop high self-esteem while at the…

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Kids and Rewards

Are you sabotaging student learning with rewards? What motivates children to want to learn? Is it possible to motivate children without using rewards and treats? Could it be that using rewards is actually causing students to be unmotivated? Where does motivation come from anyway? Some Surprising Research In his book, Drive, The Surprising Truth about…

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3 Steps to Behavior Change

Use Brain Science to Change Behavior As parents and educators, we are often faced with encouraging children to change their behavior.  We want a child who uses physical  force to express their frustration to learn to express their anger in more constructive ways.  We want a child that is bossy to learn how to communicate…

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How to handle a child’s perfectionism

Tips to Help a Perfectionist Child As a school counselor for twenty years, I often heard from teachers and parents who were coping with a perfectionist student.  Intelligent and capable of high quality work, this is often a child who dissolves into tears or a tantrum when they don’t perform a task perfectly or if…

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How to change bossy behavior in children

Tips for Thriving with the Strong Willed Child Is your child strong willed? Do you have a strong willed student in your classroom? Determined Spirited In charge Self-reliant Competitive We can either embrace their strengths or spend our days in power struggles.  We can appreciate the value and leadership they can bring to any group…

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Parenting the Introverted Child

When I teach parent training groups on personality style, one question that often comes up is how to best parent a child who is reserved or introverted. I always reassure parents that there is no one single personality style that is better than another.  This statement often resonates in a powerful way with many participants since…

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