behavior management

How do you change a child’s behavior?

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Changing a Child’s Behavior As a retired school counselor, I often answer questions on various forums about children and behavior.  A question that comes up repeatedly for all ages and in various forms is how to motivate children and create change. Educators wonder how to get children to apply themselves and care about learning the…

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Top 3 Mistakes Educators Make

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And how to correct them Educators often make the same mistakes. How do I know? I was a school counselor for 20 years and I’ve made them all myself.  The problem is that these mistakes don’t bring about the desired results, even though on the surface, it appears that we are helping and doing our job.…

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Five Ways to turn Sibling Rivalry Around

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Sibling Rivalry or Sibling Opportunity? We can all probably remember the sibling rivalry that went on in our own families. As the oldest in my family, I certainly participated in plenty of bickering and arguing of my own. Once you become a parent though, what you participated in as a kid quickly becomes one of the most…

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How to raise responsible, self-reliant children

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Helping Kids Develop a Can Do Attitude I often hear teachers and parents alike lament that the students today have little intrinsic motivation and initiative. Certainly as a school counselor, I  often presented lessons on being responsible. When asked what it means to be responsible, children usually have a good idea. They would identify tasks like…

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4 Steps to Better Communication

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Using Communication to Change Misbehavior In my last post, I wrote about connection, the first of the three steps taught in the Parent Encouragement Program by author, Kathryn Reynolds Lewis. The second step outlined in her  book, The Good News about Bad Behavior is communication. It is important to note that communication follows connection. How often…

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Connection

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Why Your Energy Matters In her book, The Good News about Bad Behavior, the author, Kathryn Lewis, identifies three steps that are taught in the Parent Encouragement Program. The first step is connection. Research has consistently shown that babies and children need connection.  Connection can mean physical touch.  It can mean creating emotional rapport through…

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