failure and success

Resilience in Kids

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Four Tips for Developing Resilience in Kids It is a rare individual who does not encounter  disappointments and difficulties during their childhood years.  In my twenty years as a school counselor, I counseled children in coping with their parent’s divorce, the death of a beloved grandparent and rejection by peers.  While some children adjust to…

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How to handle a child’s perfectionism

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Tips to Help a Perfectionist Child As a school counselor for twenty years, I often heard from teachers and parents who were coping with a perfectionist student.  Intelligent and capable of high quality work, this is often a child who dissolves into tears or a tantrum when they don’t perform a task perfectly or if…

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Motivating Students

Growth vs. Fixed Mindset At a recent elementary school training, a teacher began asking me about strategies for a student who has no motivation.  He refuses to do any work at all and she has tried numerous strategies already.  “I’ve tried everything and nothing works,” she said.  As a school counselor for 20 years, I…

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teaching kids to handle rejection

You don’t make the team Your friend doesn’t invite you to to the party Your essay, performance, or art work doesn’t win first place Rejection is a part of life, for kids a well as for adults.  I bet we all know adults who never learned to handle rejection or obstacles well.  (Think John McEnroe…

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four steps to change failure into success

How to help kids cope with failure I’ve written a lot of posts on how to handle failure.  There are several of reasons for this.   As a kid, I don’t know that anyone ever helped me understand the role that failure plays in growing, improving and becoming your best self. I just figured out…

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