failure and success

helping kids handle disappointment

Developing Skills to Handle Disappointment We all face disappointment, children and adults alike.  Whether it’s missing the winning shot or rain that ruins a picnic at the park, life is full of big and little disappointments.  As parents and teachers we would like to spare kids from these letdowns.  However, we can do children a greater service…

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children who feel entitled

The one phrase that changes an entitlement mindset Ever wonder how we could wind up with a whole generation of kids who feel entitled? Entitled to good grades without having to work and study for them. Entitled to a spot on the team or in the organization without having to practice and prove themselves. Entitled to…

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What If You Embrace the Difficulty?

Accepting limitations Every one has some sort of limitation in life.  For some this may be an actual physical disability, for others it is more subtle.  Some children have difficulty with math, or reading or social skills.  It is a rare child who excels in every area. Often as adults in children’s lives we either try…

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Resilience in Kids

Four Tips for Developing Resilience in Kids It is a rare individual who does not encounter  disappointments and difficulties during their childhood years.  In my twenty years as a school counselor, I counseled children in coping with their parent’s divorce, the death of a beloved grandparent and rejection by peers.  While some children adjust to…

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How to handle a child’s perfectionism

Tips to Help a Perfectionist Child As a school counselor for twenty years, I often heard from teachers and parents who were coping with a perfectionist student.  Intelligent and capable of high quality work, this is often a child who dissolves into tears or a tantrum when they don’t perform a task perfectly or if…

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Motivating Students

Growth vs. Fixed Mindset At a recent elementary school training, a teacher began asking me about strategies for a student who has no motivation.  He refuses to do any work at all and she has tried numerous strategies already.  “I’ve tried everything and nothing works,” she said.  As a school counselor for 20 years, I…

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