communication

Top 3 Mistakes Educators Make

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And how to correct them Educators often make the same mistakes. How do I know? I was a school counselor for 20 years and I’ve made them all myself.  The problem is that these mistakes don’t bring about the desired results, even though on the surface, it appears that we are helping and doing our job.…

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Three surprising things NOT to say to kids

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Don’t worry, we’ve all said them… There are a lot of common phrases that we as parents and educators rattle off to kids without thinking much about the meaning that could be interpreted behind it. Some of them are things that we’ve even been told we should say.  Here are three things I bet you’ve said…

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How many positive comments does it take?

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The Benefits of Creating a Positive Environment What do you do when someone makes a critical comment? Hide in bed with a pillow over your head? Make a snappy come back…several hours later? Repeat it over and over to yourself? Shawn Achor in his book– The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That…

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The Secret Sauce for a Happy Child

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Positive and Negative Feedback Do you wonder what the key is to having happy children? Maybe you even wonder about the key to finding happiness in your own life? Turns out we don’t find happiness… it’s not even related to our circumstances.  Surprised? The Research on the Happiness Advantage In Shawn Achor’s  book, The Happiness Advantage, he…

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How to raise responsible, self-reliant children

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Helping Kids Develop a Can Do Attitude I often hear teachers and parents alike lament that the students today have little intrinsic motivation and initiative. Certainly as a school counselor, I  often presented lessons on being responsible. When asked what it means to be responsible, children usually have a good idea. They would identify tasks like…

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4 Steps to Better Communication

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Using Communication to Change Misbehavior In my last post, I wrote about connection, the first of the three steps taught in the Parent Encouragement Program by author, Kathryn Reynolds Lewis. The second step outlined in her  book, The Good News about Bad Behavior is communication. It is important to note that communication follows connection. How often…

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