communication

How many positive comments does it take?

The Benefits of Creating a Positive Environment What do you do when someone makes a critical comment? Hide in bed with a pillow over your head? Make a snappy come back…several hours later? Repeat it over and over to yourself? Shawn Achor in his book– The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That…

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The Secret Sauce for a Happy Child

Positive and Negative Feedback Do you wonder what the key is to having happy children? Maybe you even wonder about the key to finding happiness in your own life? Turns out we don’t find happiness… it’s not even related to our circumstances.  Surprised? The Research on the Happiness Advantage In Shawn Achor’s  book, The Happiness Advantage, he…

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How to raise responsible, self-reliant children

Helping Kids Develop a Can Do Attitude I often hear teachers and parents alike lament that the students today have little intrinsic motivation and initiative. Certainly as a school counselor, I  often presented lessons on being responsible. When asked what it means to be responsible, children usually have a good idea. They would identify tasks like…

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4 Steps to Better Communication

Using Communication to Change Misbehavior In my last post, I wrote about connection, the first of the three steps taught in the Parent Encouragement Program by author, Kathryn Reynolds Lewis. The second step outlined in her  book, The Good News about Bad Behavior is communication. It is important to note that communication follows connection. How often…

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giving kids corrective feedback

4 steps to successful feedback How many times do I have to tell you to do that the right way? What were you thinking? Aren’t you ever going to learn? Have you ever said any of the above statements? As adults, parents and educators we are frequently faced with giving children corrective feedback. How do…

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Creating better communication with kids

Improve communication skills and resolve conflicts He’s making fun of me. She said she wasn’t my friend any more. She invited everyone to be in her club except me. He said I was weird.  It hurt my feelings. Helping kids get along with each other can be quite a challenge.  Some days it feels like…

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