Teaching children to have courage

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What is the meaning of courage? In her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown identifies the three cornerstones of whole hearted living:  courage, compassion and connection.  Wouldn’t we all  love to encourage these qualities in our children? The word courage comes from the the Latin word, “cor” which means heart.  Today courage is usually associated…

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Helping kids develop a good work ethic

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Tips for Teaching Kids a Good Work Ethic Everywhere I turn, I hear complaints about the lack of a good work ethic in today’s employees.  In a study of 1000 employers across the country, Josh Davies, the CEO of the Center for Work Ethic Development  in Colorado asked the top six work traits that employers look…

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Kids and tough friendship decisions

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Friendship Decisions and Self-Worth As a school counselor for twenty years, one of the most common problems that I talked to kids about was friendship. What do you do when a friend wants to do something that is unkind, thoughtless, or involves breaking the rules? What do you do when a friend is bossy, self-centered…

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Ten Engaging Questions to Ask Your Child

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Asking Questions that Make Kids Think As a school counselor, I often talked with parents who were concerned about their inability to engage their children in meaningful conversations. They’d ask, “What did you do at school today?” and get the standard response:  “Nothing.”  They’d learn from other parents or the teacher about significant events or…

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Discipline… What works?

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Teaching Rules or Values? Do you feel like you are constantly correcting children? Does it seem that you are redirecting and repeating behavior rules all the time? Guess what? You probably are.  In fact, research shows that from ages two to ten, children are urged by their parents to change their behavior once every six…

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Self discipline and the marshmallow test…

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How to help kids develop self discipline It’s a classic test of self-control and discipline;  The Marshmallow Test was designed by Walter Mischel in the late 1960’s, children were given a marshmallow and told they could either eat it now or wait for a period of time and get two marshmallows to eat.  The antics…

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