anxiety
Where Negative Thoughts Come From and How to Change Them
Negative thoughts… we’ve all got them. But where do they come from? Kids and adults alike probably think that negative thoughts just happen but in actuality there are four places that they may come from. We fail at something or make a mistake: Instead of seeing failure as a necessary part of success, instead we…
Read MoreSeparation Anxiety at School: Nine Ways to Overcome It
At some point every school counselor deals with a child who doesn’t want to come to school. Every child and every situation is different so you have to tailor the solution to the particular student and their parents. Begin by collaborating with the parents, the child and the teacher. This is key. If you are…
Read MoreThe 3 types of stress and how to cope
In today’s post-Covid world, stress has become an everyday part of life, even for young children. In the excellent book, The Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud, Phd, and Ned Johnson, the authors write about the stress that kids experience. In fact, all stress is not equal. Some stress can be useful or even helpful. The…
Read MoreThe anxious child and an antidote to stress
An Antidote to Being Stressed Out Kids who are too anxious to go to school. Kids who worry that they will get sick. Kids who anticipate that something bad will happen to them. Kids who feel like they never measure up. We all experience stress in its many forms. Sonia Lupien at the Centre for Studies…
Read MoreThree Ways to Support Shy Kids
How to Support Shy Kids Recently at an outdoor concert, I watched a self-assured young boy spot twin girls playing nearby, walk up to them and ask, “Can I play with you?” He was quickly assimilated into the group and soon the three of them were happily playing together although they were never formerly introduced…
Read MoreHelping children overcome fear
Three things we can teach kids about fear The child in my office was in tears. Here was her story: She was selected to give the pledge to the flag on the morning news station at school. This is a great honor and she was excited until the morning of the show, when she suddenly…
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